#138 Big Emotions, Better Responses: The Truth About Distress Tolerance

Heyyyy my messy warriors 💥

Let’s talk about something REAL today… because if you’ve ever snapped, shut down, overreacted, or said something and immediately thought “why did I just do that?”—this episode is for you.

We’re diving into distress tolerance… aka how to actually handle big emotions without letting them run the show.

Because here’s the truth 👇
 👉 It’s not that you’re “too emotional”
 👉 It’s that no one ever taught you what to do with those emotions

And that’s exactly what we’re unpacking today.

We also go into something I see ALL the time 👀
 👉 Hiding behind “I’m just speaking my truth” when it’s really unprocessed emotion coming out sideways

Because let’s be honest…

There’s a difference between:
 💬 expressing how you feel
 and
 💥 firing it at someone

And if you can’t sit with the emotion… you will throw it.

And remember this, because this one hits…

👉 Your feelings are always valid… but your delivery is still your responsibility.

We’re not aiming for perfection over here—we’re aiming for awareness, growth, and shortening that gap between reaction and reflection.

Because being real doesn’t mean being reckless…
 and your truth deserves to be delivered—not dumped.

And if you’re ready to take this work even deeper—especially when it comes to building mental toughness and real-life grit—you’re not going to want to miss what’s coming next 👀

My brand new “Messy” Challenge is dropping this April… and it’s designed to help you strengthen your mindset, regulate your emotions, and take action—even when things feel hard.

And for those of you who have ever thought…
 👉 “I feel like I have something to say… maybe I should start a podcast?”

But then immediately follow it with… “Where do I even begin?” 😅

I’ve got you.

Be on the lookout for my upcoming “Basics of Podcasting” Masterclass—where I’ll walk you through everything you need to get started (and actually follow through).

Because your voice matters… and it’s time to use it 💥